How to Overcome Insecurity in Dating
Dating can be intimidating. There’s so much scrutiny and pressure to live up to desired ideals.
At one time or another, everyone has asked themselves questions like, “Am I good enough?”, “What if he or she thinks I’m boring?” “What if I’m not their type?” “What if I do or say something stupid?” “Will they ghost me if they find a match who’s better looking/smarter/_____ than me?”
This self-doubt springs from our insecurities. We’re afraid of being hurt and rejected because we don’t feel like we’re good enough and that we’re truly lovable. A sinking feeling of self-doubt is a major block in our dating success—and it prevents us from creating a healthy partnership.
No matter how smart, beautiful, talented or interesting you are, your insecurities are going to sabotage your romantic relationships when you get triggered. People who are chronically insecure need constant reassurance and prone to jealousy, snooping and accusing partners.
This prevents anyone from seeing the real you and appreciating all that you offer. Even before you step into a relationship, your dates will be able to pick up on your low self-esteem, and this will diminish their desire to move things forward. It could also potentially cause you to attract unhealthy partners who take advantage of your insecurities and make you feel worse.
If you’re someone who’s plagued by negative self-talk that prevents you from putting your best foot forward, and having fulfilling and fun dating experiences, there are things you do to overcome them and feel better.
According to Say Allo’s featured guest, Allana Pratt—an intimacy expert, author, host and speaker—developing confidence and self-belief begins with doing the inner work and taking care of our own “stuff”.
When we take care of unresolved emotional issues and patterns that aren’t working for us, we’ll be able to show our real personality and develop authentic connections with our dates.
Allana offers advice and solutions in this Say Allo expert feature, covering topics such as:
The most common insecurities online daters experience (and what they can do about it).
How our insecurities show up in our behavior and relationship outcomes.
How to bounce back from rejection and bad dating spells.
Practices that make you appear and sound confident (and attractive) to your matches.
Quit allowing your dating insecurities get in the way of having a good time, and start working on overcoming them. Each step you take brings you closer to Say Allo to your perfect match!
Ready to get back in the game and find your perfect partner?
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