When is Being Picky a Good Thing?
If you’ve recently noticed that you rarely swipe right on dating apps because no one is popping out at you, and you find yourself saying “no thanks,” you might be blaming one of two things: a lackluster dating pool or your unrealistic standards.
You’re probably worn out from dodging players courting you with their monosyllabic greetings of “hey” or “wassup, hot stuff?” and the immature frat boys or sorority sisters who refuse to treat you like the gentleman or lady that you are. A bad swiping spell will make you question whether your picky ways are to blame for the lack of a love life.
Firstly, know that you’re not alone in your predicament. In a world where we need to make five-second decisions about whether or not to pursue someone based on a couple of photos and a blurb alone, the approach to dating has drastically changed. Sorting through a sea of matches can bring out the nitpicky side in all of us.
A 2013 study shows that online dating has made us more judgmental, and there’s a higher chance that we’ll dismiss perfectly good candidates. Because of the endless supply in options, a lot of singles have developed a “window shopping” mentality and become overly selective.
They have become desensitized to the fact that the people they see in these apps are actually real people with many dimensions to their personality that are revealed with time. An intelligent dater knows how to avoid this pitfall by having criteria that make it easier to find someone.
Yet, the question remains: Where do we draw the line in our selection process?
According to love and relationship expert Susan Winter, we all have the right to be selective when choosing a mate but we do have to know when those standards are working against us. During the interview Susan provides her expert insight into the “am I too picky” quandary.
In this interview, you’ll find out:
The difference between being picky, having standards and settling.
Whether being picky decreases or increases your chances of finding “the one.”
Why knowing your worth and what you have to offer as a partner is essential.
How to develop a balanced approach to picking your dates.
Ready to Say Allo to that special someone who meets your healthy standards?
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